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Bride & “Groomed” | Your Guide To Trimming “Down There”

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Alright, today we’re gonna talk about hair removal! Maybe you’ve heard some friends talking about it and it never crossed your mind… or you’re getting married soon and want some options on what you can do down there. Well, here a fun exciting new post on removing your pubes (or not).

While I was planning this post I wondered how the heck am I going to talk about hair removal without letting the world know about my “down-there” hair care routine? Welp, secret’s out, guys, I wax (and I love it)!

So, before we get into some nitty-gritty details, let’s talk options. There are a few options out there and depending on your price range, you can pick what will work for you! Also, this post contains affiliate links from Amazon, which means that if you click on one of the product links, I’ll receive a small commission 🙂

You can:

  • Shave
  • Wax
  • Laser
  • Trim


First off, shaving is the most common way to remove hair. Razors are cheap, too (I’m sure you know that, though). I’ve actually never shaved down there, trim- sure. There’s a special razor for that! (Click here to check out this awesome Bikini Trimmer). Shaving is quick, easy, usually painless and you can shave your whole body if you wish. (#ishavemyface #noitdoesntgrowbackdarker #singlebladerazor).


Waxing is another option- my favorite option. It’s somewhat painful, pricey, but totally worth it (in my book!) I live in Austin, so that means I live in a pool full of ice. Because I survive the heat in shorts and dresses, I love having silky smooth legs and not having to play hide and seek with the lady bits in swimsuits 🙂 Okay, since it’s my preferred way of doing things, the rest of this post is mainly about waxing!

Price? It depends. The price varies depending on where you live. When I go, Brazilians are around $60 and a full leg wax is about $75. I bought my own hard wax and do everything but my lady bits now. The tin of hard wax and some applicator sticks (Wax and Sticks!) cost me about $30 and the warmer (Warmer!) was about $20. $50 is a lot more affordable than $140!

Pain? Sure, it hurts, but the more often you go, the less painful it is! Your hair thins out and doesn’t grow back completely if you go every 3-6 weeks.

Irritation? There’s some, but I have found that hard wax is less painful and not as irritating on the lady bits! Plus, make sure you go to a licensed, experienced esthetician. If you do find that you get irritated after waxing, purchase some A&D Ointment or an after wax cream that contains zinc oxide, it will help a ton! Coconut oil is an option too, though I have never used it. Salons usually sell serums and creams so if it’s in the budget, stock up! The ingrown hair serums are magic.


If you plan on getting waxed for your wedding, get waxed 3-4 times beforehand and plan your last wax a week from the wedding. Don’t plan on tanning within 3 days of getting waxed (before or after) or else YOU WILL BURN. And sex isn’t recommended within 24 hours of waxing to prevent bacteria from getting all up in ya bits.

You guys, my worst waxing experience was 4 days before my wedding! The lady burnt me and broke blood vessels all around my hooha- OUCH. Make sure the salon you go to has a good reputation AND if you didn’t like your experience, go somewhere else 🙂


Laser Hair Removal- The most expensive of all the options. One of my friends has had it done and says it’s no more painful than waxing. Before the appointment, you have to shave. Typically you go for about 6 sessions (6 weeks in between) and each time your hair will grow back slower and come in thinner than before. Your hair will fall out slowly between treatments.

Wax| Shave| Laser| Trim| Waxing

F.A.T.A.W (Frequent Awkward Thoughts About Waxing)

But It’s Weird to Have Someone Down There!

Trust me. They don’t care that you’re naked and they are professionals, like doctors.They can easily be put in the category, “People-Okay-To-See-My-Lady-Bits.” We are all women and have the same parts, there is nothing to be ashamed of or afraid of. You can easily book the same waxer for every appointment, too, if you are uneasy with the idea of multiple people seeing your bits.

What If My Vagina Looks Weird?

Well, it’s a vagina. It’s not gonna look like a beautiful flower- and it shouldn’t. I promise you, waxers don’t care, they’ve seen it all.

What’s It like? What Can I Expect When I Get Waxed?

There are a lot of options to choose from when you go to a waxing salon. If you have hair somewhere, you can get it waxed. You have some choices, though, with your lady bits.

Bikini Wax– removes hair in your panty line (the sides and across the top) and that’s it. If you’re nervous about getting waxed, this one is a lot less painful than a Brazilian, so maybe try this first 🙂

Extended (Full) Bikini Wax– removes as much hair in the front as you’d like. You can even get fun shapes like a triangle, square, strip or nothing at all! 🙂

Brazilian Wax– They take alllllll the hair off. Well, that’s the idea. You can choose to have a shape or strip on top but they remove all the hair on your lips and around the corner (a butt strip, which is admittedly the most awkward but least painful part).

Your waxer will guide you on where to place your legs. A good waxer will apply pressure as soon as they remove the wax strip to ease the sting. I would recommend going somewhere that uses hard wax, it’s a lot less painful than soft wax (strip wax).

There isn’t much upkeep other than making sure you exfoliate 3-4x a week to help with ingrown hairs and use your serum and creams!

Is It Okay?

It’s totally fine! It can be fun to surprise hubs with on the wedding night or change things up if your hubs is used to seeing you a certain way :). There isn’t anything in the Bible that says “THOU SHALL NOT WAX!”

Another benefit to removing hair is that it can help with cleanliness and can make it easier for your hubs to perform oral sex (that’s a good tip if you’re not yet married!;)

Lastly, if you like your hair and it’s never done you any wrong, great! Body hair is natural and there is no need to remove it! Embrace yourself and don’t feel pressure to change. Hubs loves you for you. Some women go into their first time (sexually) thinking that that’s what men prefer because of our culture and the influence porn has had on many men. While I completely understand that it can be the case for some, don’t let that be what you base your decision on :).

Hopefully, this answers some questions you may have! Feel free to shoot me a message if you have more questions! Otherwise, give your hubs a smooch for me!

Emily Heart

10 thoughts on “Bride & “Groomed” | Your Guide To Trimming “Down There”

  1. I love how you can just be yourself in your writings! If people feel like they are reading something from a real person it has more impact and it feels like you are having a conversation with a friend which in turn makes awkward topics a little less awkward. Thank you for your ministry! you are awesome!

  2. I love this, and I love you for writing this! I seriously look forward to reading your blog. I am chuckling, and just can’t stop.

  3. Hahaha, not what I expected but very good info! My moms an esthetician, makes me laugh because she hates doing ladies waxing in our nether regions! Thanks for this info!

    1. Haha, yeah, I mean you can be as professional as possible- it’s still not going to be a fun time waxing other women’s bottoms!

  4. I’m married. Been married for a long time, and it never occurred to me to shave “down there” until a few years ago. I know; I live under a rock. This is great information about all the options. Thanks!

    1. Hehe! Thanks! Yeah, it didn’t occur to me until someone asked what I was gonna do for my wedding! Then, I had friends that wanted to know what waxing was like so I took the dive and tried it out!

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