First off, I want to say thanks for taking the time to visit the blog, it’s all new to me, but I am excited to embark on this new adventure. I have had a passion stirring in my heart for the past year for reaching out to engaged and newly married women.
The Bible has a lot to say about sex and relationships and I want us to dive deeper into God’s word and change our marriages for the better. Growing up in church, sex was a god. It was the answer to all happiness or it would destroy you if you fell into the trap of premarital sex. Sex was taboo and no one talked about it. I didn’t piece together what sex was until after high school! If you feel clueless, I get it. I want to help you find the answers you need, to make you laugh and to help you figure out this new season of life.
During our engagement, the articles I read and the conversations I had with friends shaped how I looked at marriage. Some of these conversations were beneficial, while others did more damage than good. My fiance and I were engaged for one year; half of which, he spent in another state until the wedding. There was a big urge for us to seek pre-marital counseling and a lot of people had opinions on what we should and shouldn’t do.
After we were married, life happened. Crap hit the fan and I was hit with this reality: even though we tried our hardest to ask the “right” questions and have the “hard” conversations before we said “I Do,” it wasn’t enough. I tried to talk to ladies I met, but I felt that my concerns were too awkward to talk about. I went into marriage feeling prepared for anything and instead, I was in a tiny apartment with a man, in a new state, with no nearby friends and a WHOLE lot of questions.
I started BELOVED. to have a place to talk about the awkward stuff, a place to find new ways to spice up the romance in your marriage or just a place to find comfort and know you’re not alone in this journey. I found the name from the well-known verse, “I am my beloved’s and my beloved is mine…” (Song of Solomon 6:3) and thought that it would be fitting to talk about the covenant we made (or will make) with our spouses, even though life gets hard and we want to give up at times. Marriage is truly a wonderful thing, it’s the hardest thing I’ve ever done, but also the most rewarding.
I cannot wait to share more of my story with you all, until next time: